From Fathers Heart To Yours
Thursday, May 06, 2021

Power of Our Words

Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
(Ephesians 4: 29)
As men of God it is our responsibility to lead our families and others into full spiritual maturity as well as seeing to all the other aspects of life. In this we should be about finding the gifts, anointing, and other good qualities in our children. These are to be nurtured, fed, and brought to full life by our help of teaching and edifying. We are to encourage the best to bring out what is hidden, to build up in such a way that our children have a desire for the right way and the good things of God. 
The way we speak will have so much impact on our children. How often we find ourselves addressing the wrong we find more than the good we see. “There is that speaketh like the piercing of a sword: but the tongue of the wise is health.” (Proverbs 12: 18)
Those words we speak when in anger are like the piercing of a sword. How we deal with the wrong is often taken by our children as anger and hate toward them. They take it many times as a personal attack when in reality we are speaking about the wrong thing, not the person. We must be careful to distinguish between the two.
“A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.”
 (Proverbs 15:1) What about the times when we begin to get loud, and often times a shouting match will erupt, anger is boiling and trouble compounds. There are times when sternness, a firm voice, authority, and even loud may be needed. However, authority is not anger and anger at sin and wrong is not anger expressed toward a person.” “ Father’s provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.” (Col.3: 21) “He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth His spirit than he that taketh a city.” (Proverbs 16:32) 
Why do the things our children do wrong tend to trouble us so much? I believe it is because we can see the greatness in them and we want so desperately to see that greatness coming forth. Another thing is that we expect our children to be so different than all others that our disappointment is easily surfaced when they don’t measure up to the perfection that we think they are capable of. We must allow our children to be children. We must remember that the sin nature was born with our children and we cannot expect them to be more than we cultivate them to be. 
There is a man in scripture called Barnabas. That name means “son of encouragement.” As we look at his life in the book of Acts we find that he was just that, an encourager. He did it with Paul, he did it at Antioch, and he did it with Mark. Let us, as men of God begin to seek to be encouragers. We do not compromise our faith or our expectations of greatness. We will however, be instrumental in cultivating those expectations with encouragement. 
I know myself that I am always energized by encouragement from others, especially my wife and children. How do you suppose they respond when we encourage them? “Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another.”(Romans 14: 19)
After all doesn’t God encourage us with His words?   Don’t we have hope, love, and faith by hearing what he has to say to us? Aren’t His promises the fuel that cultivates greatness in us as Men of God? Doesn’t His Spirit encourage and strengthen especially at times when it is needed most. How could we go on if we were not encouraged to do so by our Father in Heaven?
So Men of God, I encourage you to be mighty in the Lord. Believe that all things are possible and that you can do all things through Christ that strengthens you. Receive that in your spirit! Now impart the same to your household! After all, it’s all from the Father’s Heart to yours and theirs.